I just connected with Debbie Kolb, who reminded me about another move she recommends for shifting the conversation when someone tries to put you down.
She calls it role-reversal. Ask the other person, "What would you do if you were in my situation?" It spotlights your interests and nudges the other person to see the situation from your point of view.
I hope you don't often need this, but when you do, give it a try.
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I just connected with Debbie Kolb, who reminded me about another move she recommends for shifting the conversation when someone tries to put you down.
She calls it role-reversal. Ask the other person, "What would you do if you were in my situation?" It spotlights your interests and nudges the other person to see the situation from your point of view.
I hope you don't often need this, but when you do, give it a try.